Family Matters: When Children Give Up
Have you ever watched children struggle, with fierce tenacity, to learn to tie their shoes or ride a bike-showing “I can do this myself.” It’s amazing and frustrating to watch. Most of us would rather just do it for them. It’s easier, faster and we adults will do it right.
Then there is the opposite; children who cry, whine, withdraw from things and, in general, display the attitude “I know I’ll fail, so I won’t try. Those who have adapted an “I don’t care” attitude are headed for failure. The contrast between the two kinds of behaviors is mind boggling. Most parents would prefer the child in the first example.